I was told that as parents with a new adoptive child we will begin to be "tested" at about 3 months. It has almost been three months since placement and the advice was correct! She is testing. The kids are starting to get on each others nerves just like they should and I am getting introduced to the "attitude". She doesn't like to be corrected or scolded. She likes to retreat, ignore everyone, pout, and be alone. When she was done with all of that she came back around and joined us like nothing was wrong. Yesterday was the real first time I actually had to scold her for her attitude. The kids started church day camp yesterday and were tired and worn out which I am sure contributed to the grumpiness.
We also had a frustrating incident where foster mom told her at one time that if you are pregnant and you look at the full moon your baby will be deformed. She actually believes that and will have no part of believing me when I tell her thats a superstition. UGH!! Why would she tell a child that? And HOW am I ever going to get her to trust and believe what I tell her?? Hopefully with time. Its frustrating raising a child who didn't grow up with your own beliefs and ideas. It also drives a wedge between the bonding for me. I feel things I would be ashamed to admit but also feel are normal feelings. But they don't always feel good. We feel like we are having to completely reprogram her. I know its only been 3 months and I am anxious to see where we are in a year. I know it will be worth it all!
